How to Self Manage and Increase Self Discipline

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Takeaways 

• Self-management is the management of or by oneself the taking of responsibility for one's own behavior and well-being
• Outside of holding people accountable at work there are other things that are involved in managing someone and most likely it's going to be the same for you. 
• To help someone grow there are varieties of things that you need to have not just discipline itself. 
• Management is knowing what you should be doing: and most managers don’t know what they’re doing
• The difference between managing and discipline is knowing what you're supposed to be doing and actually doing what's on that list.
• I’m not blaming anybody else for my shortcomings or for the way that my life is right now I take full responsibility for that and I feel like when you start to do that then you can start your true like self-management, I think journey but I think unless you are to the point where you can take responsibility and own you know what you do and the outcomes of what you do then I think you're mismanaging rather than self-managing. Nuggets of wisdom from Sinclair 
•  self-discipline is the ability to control one's feelings and overcome one's weaknesses the ability to pursue what one thinks is right despite of temptations to abandon it.
• Overcoming one's weaknesses means it's different for every single person
• The reason for discipline: why you need discipline in the first place is because we all have those temptations to abandon what we know what we're supposed to do for whatever reason it be whether it's external internal we have those temptations to abandon whatever it is.”
• self-management and discipline go hand in hand into action if you wish to achieve your goals 
• your progress differs from other: we are our unique being. 
• Build your network: Find the right people to seek guidance from (the right guidance of course)
• Support groups are important: Find your pack, tribe or group so you may survive and achieve your goals. 
• Having a strong WHY is a must. 

 

Key moments 

00:01 intro 

[03:09] we’re gonna talk about self-management versus self-discipline how you can practice

Those things and maybe what are some traps or some resources that you can do

[03:36] are you ready for some podcasts? *Sinclair sings* 

[05:32] definition of self-management

[06:20] Sinclair shares the talk that they had about self-management and how it differs based from her on understanding  

[06:55] outside of holding people accountable at work what other things are involved in managing someone else?

[07:18] responsibility for one's behavior and well-being

[07:32] mismanagement is a thing 

[7:45] where’s the manager here

[08:13] De'Von shares how he views the difference between managing and discipline 

[08:40] Taking full responsibility: Sinclair 

[09:12] definition of discipline

[11:10] overcoming one's weaknesses

[12:00] The reason for discipline: Sinclair shares her take towards self-discipline 

[15:22] shiny thing syndrome

[15:41] Figure out what you need to do: Devon shares his insights on how you can genuinely achieve your goals through self-management. 

[ 20:26] self-affirmation and motivation in discipline: our couple gives us an impactful and practical list on how we can improve self-management and discipline 

[23:15] team no sleep sleeping for suckers

[24:39] yes what are things that can help folks manage themselves

[32:12] You don't always know what you should be doing

[35:14] The BU Community 

[40:00] Accountability group: our couple shares examples from their first-hand experiences. How the right group can help you thrive 

[45:54] what is your “why”

[52:58] Outro 

 

Tips 

• Always ask and observe how you can practice self-management & self-discipline determine what are the traps or resources that you can do. 
• Be the best self-manager you can be.
• Take responsibility for your actions and habits.
• The key part there is taking responsibility
• Take time to notice the ability to control your feelings how many times do other people make you do something just off of you reacting to them.
• Temptations come in many forms not just the usual ones we have. Some are mostly unnoticeable. Sometimes it come even in the littlest forms like ideas, you lose focus on the main thing when another idea pops up n your head. 
• Do these things do them well and do them the way that you got to do them before you add more things on.
• Utilize your calendar
• wrap down your list of things that are truly important to you, things that you truly want to prioritize and then secondary is figure out what needs to happen what tools you need to have the discipline to achieve those things on your list.
• Figure out how you’re going to stay disciplined.
• Take time to rest. Pamper yourself and be kind to yourself 
• make sure that you have a strong “why” for what you're even doing

Quotes

“The key is to take responsibility” – Sinclair 

“I’m not blaming anybody else for my shortcomings or for the way that my life is right now I take full responsibility for that

“I think you can be responsible for your own well-being but not necessarily do everything that you're supposed to be doing” – De'Von

“Mismanagement is a thing” – De'Von  

“Mis-discipline that doesn't exist either you have discipline or you don't have discipline” – De'Von  

“Management is knowing what you should be doing” – De'Von  

“The difference between managing and discipline is knowing what you're supposed to be doing and actually doing what's on that list.” – De'Von

“You are strong you are beautiful and you are ready to live your best life” – TH4 

“Overcoming one's weaknesses means it's different for every single person” – De'Von

“Why you need discipline in the first place is because we all have those temptations to abandon what we know what we're supposed to do for whatever reason it be whether it's external internal we have those temptations to abandon whatever it is.” – Sinclair 

“The more important something is to you the more distractions and the more you will procrastinate.” – De'Von

“Do these things do them well and do them the way that you got to do them before you add more things on” – De'Von

“Wrap down your list of things that are truly important to you, things that you truly want to prioritize and then secondary is figure out what needs to happen what tools you need to have the discipline to achieve those things on your list.” – De'Von

“Really think about what is your goal what are things to get you to that goal and how are you going to stay disciplined.” – Sinclair 

“What are you going to do to hold yourself accountable when you are not doing what you're supposed to do.” – Sinclair 

“You can't let that guilt ruin the time that you have set aside to care for yourself because again there is always something to do it never stops. so, you have to just take that time block everything out care for yourself and not feel guilty about it” – Sinclair 

“I think with discipline less can be more: under promise over delivery” TH4 couple 

“You don't always know what you should be doing” – De'Von 

“it's important to find somebody who has done what you are trying to do or who has knowledge and what you are trying to do to guide you on what you should be doing” – Sinclair 

“Utilize other people as well as tools but at the end of the day you also need to rely on yourself” – Sinclair  

“Make sure that you have a strong “why” for what you're even doing” – Sinclair  

“Figure out what the end goal is and make it something that's very important to you” – Sinclair  

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